We receive about 148000 times NO's, in our first 18 years of life, if we grow in average and positive homes. That is, what we shouldn't or couldn't do, more than 1,48,000 times. If luckier we were, the NO's could be 1,25,000 times or 75,000 times. However, the fact remains; it is indeed more negative programming than we need.
Ironically, regarding positives, during the first 18 years of life, how often we think we were told what you can achieve or can do. If they were a few thousand times, or a few hundred? Most of the people and my students I talked to, told me that they do not remember having told what they could achieve more than 3-4 times in the first 18 years of their lives. I any case the, "you can't" outnumber than the "you can do". The negative programming we get may be unintentional but is harmful and is from our parents, brothers, sisters, friends, teachers, colleagues, life partners, variety of advertisements, news papers, news, media and yellow journalism.
Behavioral Researchers say that 77% of everything what we think is negative, counterproductive and works against us. Accordingly, medical researchers say that 75% of all diseases are self induced. In other words, everybody and everything around us has been programming us negatively, casually, wrongly and leading to discontent and failure indeed.
Unfortunately, gradually we believe the wrong programming fed in our mind by all. This gets toughened and strong, month by month, layer by layer and we start ourselves believing the negative programming of our mind by others as true. It is said that "Repetition is a convincing argument". It may be innocently or softly said, we hear the same negative words and thoughts repeatedly thousand times that we couldn't do this or that. Thus believing what others pictured us, we believe the same about our-self and get into the likewise negative future we too created in our minds.
Ultimately, we become what we believed about our-self. Gradually, we created a glass wall of negative programming, in between us and our golden future. But this is only till our old negative programming is live. So we need to replace the programming part to the positive to change the rest of our future.